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Dear Mr. Perplex,


It might not sound good to you but the way your parents treat you is just a way of showing that they still care for you a lot. You might find it annoying but as parents they don't want you to get harm. Your parents might be acting so possessive in terms of being so strict with you that they won't even allow you to go out with your friends. But it doesn't mean that they are trying to control your life. They just care!

You had said that you are getting annoyed the way your mom mothers you. You felt vexed every time she treats you like a ten year old child. Obviously, as a teenager, you wanted to do things at your own. You think that your old enough to do everything. If you dislike the way your mom treats you, go talk to her. Tell her everything that she doesn't understand. Be honest with what you feel. Assure to her your real intentions that you just want to grow with yourself. Don't just stomp or raise the tone of your voice to show dissent but rather confide to her. Don't let your mom guess what you feel. Later then she will understand if you'll just let her know your side. Your responsible enough for your decisions.

About your smoking habit that your dad complained about you, maybe he had his reasons to complain then. It is obvious that smoking will really harm you especially your health. Your dad don't want you to be like his friends who had grown old smoking. He might just want you to avoid getting hooked with it. Aside from that, your dad whined about changing your course from premed to communication arts, maybe for him its the easiest way for your success.

Its so sad to know that you had a sister who has been competing with you. She sounds like she wanted to be superior than you. It is so strange that she even do things that would really hurt you. But as an older brother, you had the right to talk to her and correct her bad deeds. Maybe then, she's only seeking for an attention. She might think that your parents attention is always at you. Explain to her everything. Work out your relationship with her. She might just looking for a real brother in you.

After all,your a family. Each of you had his or her purpose. According to the theory of Watzlawick's Interactional View, there is a certain theory that best explain what your going through. There is this certain theory that when something happened to one member of a family, the other member will also be affected. Talk things between your family. Open up with them so as they could open up to you. Just don't make your avoidance to communicate as an excuse. It would eventually increase the gaps you have on your family.

Keep loving your family, don't hate them. Value your family because they are just what you have got.





Bises,


Lenin..