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A LETTER OF ADVICE TO JIM..




Dearest Jim,


Bonjour!


I know that Shelley and you are seriously dating for 6 months. You had been sharing lots of thoughts and likes with each other. Shelley had shared everything from you without being skeptical,so as you. Obviously, your going into a serious relationship and I know you enjoyed it a lot.

However,about the diary thing she had that you had been longing to know about is such a bad bad idea. You don't have the right to invade her privacy even though you think that your close enough to share everything. You couldn't blame her if she wouldn't want to share her journal with you. That journal is her private property and it is important to her. I, myself, do have a daily journal. My parents and even my closest bud doesn't know about it. They know I have but they did not know what is it all about. Writing a daily journal is my way of attaching myself closest to mine. My journal is half of who and what I am. It is where I write my inner thoughts and even my failures, angers, resentments as well as my victories and happiness. I still value my individuality and my privacy as a human being but it doesn't mean I'm avoiding to open up with others. I just don't need to be fully attached to someone else.

Shelley might be like me. She writes to express her emotions. She writes because she wanted to be just her self. She find solace in it. She just want you to respect her privacy. It doesn't mean that she's hiding something from you. You could know her better by just discovering who she really is. Don't push her to do something that might destroy your relationship. Let her open up with you. Don't show her that you become obsess about her diary. She might turn out to be skeptical about you. Being together doesn't mean to omit the sense of an individuality.

Shelley will be glad if you'll understand her needs of autonomy. Just take things slowly. Let her privacy be her own. You'll just be surprised that she might be the one to share it with you. Let there be spaces between you but it doesn't mean that more is better.


Love & Bises,

LenIn